Whether you are an introvert or an extrovert there are ways you can help spread the intact message, plant seeds of change and save some babies!
Meet Like-Minded People
Join your state's chapter of Your Whole Baby.
If you're not ready to discuss circumcision with someone face to face, but you still want to help get the word out, consider ordering these Intact Information Cards. We have heard of people leaving these cards in all sorts of clever places: inside magazines at doctors' offices, inside newborn clothing at stores, inside books about pregnancy, in the pockets of maternity clothes at stores, family bathrooms, the play area at malls, coffee shops, parks, the grocery store, etc. (Send pics of your handy work to YWB via Facebook!)
Tip: Don't overdo it. If you go crazy placing tons and tons of cards in every baby book you see, there's a good chance an employee is going to be asked to find and remove all of your hard work.
You can also find a selection of print-at-home Intact Information cards here, if you prefer to print your own.
Carding Tips From a Pro
Christina Says, "My favorite spot to card is the family restroom, right on the changing tables. Here are a few sneaky ways I card items. I try to put them in baby items pregnant mamas would get and prepare before the baby is born. I know we parents always wash all the sheets and burp cloths before baby comes! For the tricky burp cloths/bib packages I fold the card over behind the cardboard. This way when they rip it off it's the first thing they see. I open packages with crib sheets and such and slide the card between the cardboard and fabric."
A Your Whole Baby "Twibbon" on your Facebook profile pic allows not only your friends to see the web address, but every time you comment on another Facebook page, the people who read your post will see your profile picture and might just be curious enough to click and see what it's all about. Adding a "Twibbon" is super easy. Click on one of the designs below:
These cute and simple stickers can be placed on your outgoing mail, on receipts at restaurants, on snack bags at a baby shower or anywhere else you want to leave a lasting message. These Your Whole Baby stickers can go just about anywhere! Stickers are 1.5" diameter (a bit larger than a quarter.) Visit the Your Whole Baby Shop to order your stickers!
Do you know someone who is pregnant and you'd like to send them information on circumcision, but you don't feel comfortable directly approaching them? Your Whole Baby will send them an anonymous message for you.
Posting signs in high visibility areas is a great way to spread the message of genital autonomy with very little time commitment.
Sidewalk chalk is a great way to spread the intact message at parks and other public places where there is heavy foot traffic. You can keep your art simple or create an elaborate masterpiece. Your kids will enjoy this one too! (And, don't forget to send pics to YWB via Facebook!)
IMPORTANT INFORMATION: It is illegal to chalk in some locations. Make sure you know your legal rights so you don't get yourself into trouble.
Spread the intact message to thousands of people without ever saying a word. Let the Your Whole Baby car decal spark fellow driver's curiosity and save babies as your drive. (Send a pic of your car decal to YWB!)
Choose from several design options in the YWB Shop.
Send "Don't Retract" Packs
Do you know a doctor's office that forcibly retracts male patients or instructs parents to retract to clean their son's penis? Order a forced retraction brochure and letter to be sent directly to the doctor anonymously. Our letter has been signed by: Adrienne Carmack, MD, Board-certified urologist and author of The Good Mommy's Guide to Her Little Boy's Penis, Alex Rotta, MD, Professor of Pediatrics, Case Western Reserve University School of Medicine, and Ryan McAllister, PhD, author and presenter of “An Elephant in the Hospital”.Or, print your own Summary of Intact Care to provide to your son's healthcare provider.
Letters to Doctors
Do you know of pediatricians, OBGYNs or other doctors who perform circumcisions? Send them a letter asking them to stop performing the procedure and to provide information to parents on the benefits of leaving babies intact. A sample letter can be found here and/or send the "10 Reasons You Shouldn't Circumcise Baby Boys" letter from Intact America.
Changing Table Posters
Help keep intact babies safe from retraction! Tape this simple and informative Proper Care poster near changing tables in public restrooms, churches, doctors' offices or anywhere parents change their baby's diaper. If you can, laminate them before hanging them up. Print your own or order one from our Shop page.
Post a link to an article and/or a graphic that might speak to your audience. Remember, you won't change everyone's minds and the person who wants to argue with you might not be the person you're reaching; it might be someone who clicks the link without ever saying a word to you about it. If you don't like argument or confrontation, you don't have to engage. Simply say, "I am not looking to argue. I am posting this information for anyone who might want to learn a new perspective." If you do decide to engage, remember to come from a place of love and sincerity with your responses. It can be tempting to respond with venom and hatred (we all feel that way sometimes), but that isn't going to win anyone over. Keep your eye on the prize! Changing hearts and minds. This article, on how to have productive online conversations sums it up best by stating, "In public or group discussions, most readers (especially those who are undecided) never comment at all. This means that the people you’re most likely to influence are not the people who are commenting, and those people are more likely to listen to you and agree with you if you are respectful and seek to learn the truth."
If you are ready to discuss circumcision with someone face to face, here are some "first sentences" to help you get started:
- "Congrats on your pregnancy! [Hand them an Intact Information Card.] I wanted to share this information with you. I'm always available for questions if you have any." (This would also be a not-too-awkward way to hand a stranger a card in a public place.)
- "Have you made any decisions about circumcision yet?" or "Have you guys talked about circumcision yet?" Depending on their response you can either A. Do the happy dance or B. Ask, "Would your mind if I email you some information to look at?" or "Would you mind if I share what I have learned about it?" [Personally, I think the two most important things to share are: 1. There is no painkiller that can completely take away their pain (ask them to imagine having their genitals cut with "sort of" painkiller.) and 2. The foreskin serves many functions and makes sex better for both the man and woman.]
- "We kept [insert baby's name] intact. Have you guys thought about that at all?"
- Barrel of Oranges has a wonderful sample letter you can alter and email to pregnant friends/family/acquaintances.
- This is another sample letter, written by an activist, short and simple, that you can send to an acquaintance.
Letters to Schools
Send this letter to your school district's superintendent and/or the principals of your local schools.